6 signs she wants to have sex with you
It always amazes me how clueless men are when it comes to women.
I know there will be men that protest this statement fervently, but speaking from my own experience, there are times when I feel like the men in my life couldn’t get a clue without a map and a GPS guide to get them there. Sometimes I imagine them searching the internet for ways to figure us out, to get a better understanding of how women think and feel.
Then I remember that most of the men in my life would consider that going the extra mile and they are not those kinds of men. I’m not saying those men don’t exist, they definitely do, they just aren’t in my area or if they are, I haven’t met them.
No, the men in my life are simple and great in their own way, but they aren’t often good at figuring out women’s wants and needs. They approach me at the gas station or the grocery store because I don’t frequent bars anymore. I am polite as they inquire about hanging out or catching up, and my politeness is often misinterpreted as flirting or even interest in them sexually.
So, to make it a little easier for all the men out there wondering if the girl they like is interested, here are a few tips to make it easier. That way you aren’t mistaking the quirky ways of the girl who makes your coffee as flirting.
1. Her gaze lingers in certain places.
Making eye contact can sometimes be a sign that someone is into you, but not everyone is great at making eye contact. In fact, when women are feeling a certain type of way about you, it’s hard to make eye contact. Direct eye contact is hard when someone is feeling anxious or insecure. It’s also very difficult for anyone, like me, who is neurodivergent. A lack of eye contact doesn’t always mean there is a lack of interest.
Don’t feel put off if the girl you’re interested in isn’t making eye contact with you. Instead, pay attention to where she is looking. If her gaze lingers on your lips instead of looking into your eyes, that is a good sign that she is feeling something for you. When I am into someone, I find myself looking at their lips, watching them as they speak, wondering what it would feel like to kiss them. Pay close attention to where she looks at you.
2. She touches you.
I once saw a show where a man knew a woman was interested in him by counting the seconds that her hand lingered on his arm when she touched him. He would count ‘ one Mississippi, two Mississippi’ and so on until he reached four, and then that was his cue that she was flirting with him. This might sound kind of silly, but the basis of it is very true.
When a woman wants you, she will find ways to touch you, even if she is doing it subconsciously. Her hand will rest on your arm when she is talking to you. She’ll brush your hair away from your forehead. Her fingers will brush against yours as you are walking. Just the hint of her skin touching yours will excite her and clue you in on how she really feels about you.
3. Her voice will change when she speaks to you.
The way a woman talks to you can often be a sign that she is into you, but the tone of her voice will tell you just as much, if not more, than her words will. If a woman wants to get with you, she isn’t going to use the same tone with you that she uses with the server who brings dinner to your table on a date. Her tone will soften. The volume of her voice when you are alone together will go down, letting you know she is speaking only to you.
4. She confides in you.
A woman who trusts you enough to sleep with you is a woman who will share things about herself. Telling you things about herself, even if they might seem trivial, is a way of building up trust in you. It is also her way of letting you get to know things about her. Women want to feel like they are investing in the men they let share their bed. If she is sharing things about herself and trying to get to know you, this is a clear sign she is interested.
5. She compliments you.
Do you find that the woman you are into tells you how nice you look? Does she point out that your arms look bigger since you’ve been going to the gym? This is a clear sign that she’d rather see you with your shirt off instead of on. Not only is she looking to flatter you and make you feel good, she is also showing you that she pays attention about to you.
6. She hints at an invitation.
A very clear indication that a woman wants to get with you is that she will find ways to tell you she is free. Instead of angling for an invitation to spend time with you instead of just a compliment. If she’s dropping hints about nights, she’s free or asking about your schedule, she is trying to tell you that she wants you to ask her out.
Signs are different from consent.
Though knowing that these signs are her way of letting you know she is interested in getting you alone, but don’t take them as a form of consent. Non-verbal cues should never be considered a woman’s way of giving you consent. Make sure that if you decide to pursue a sexual relationship with a woman that she is excited and enthusiastically wanting to be with you.
The above signs are meant to give you a guide map to understand how women can communicate with you non-verbally, but that doesn’t mean that you should just skip out on any conversation. Once you see her giving you these signals and you are interested, take the leap to asking her out on a date. Or if you have a conversation and she wants to skip the dinner date and get straight down to business, that’s outstanding too.
All you have to do is keep an eye out for the signs and you’ll never have to play a guessing game about if she wants you ever again.