What women enjoy most about giving blow jobs [adult]
Oral sex is great — amazing. The appreciation we watch in porn hardly transcends into our bedrooms. The girls who truly worship the dick are unicorns — much like the girls who enjoy anal:
Do you like women to give oral sex? The short answer is: No, not at all. While some sources claim only 28 % of women enjoy giving others state that hardly any women enjoy it. A lot of my female friends share this opinion.
“Why should I blow him? That’s disgusting”, is just one of the statements. No wonder that you can’t enjoy yourself when he goes down on you. Oral sex can pleasurable both for the receiver and for the giver. I have had it both ways happening to me, so I see the struggle, but I don’t understand it. Why giving without taking is such a big deal.
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No, you are not returning the favour
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While it seems the best bet when you are a teenager, hungry for adventure, and scared to get pregnant, adults hate to perform it. Most of them do. What looks easy in porn is hard in real life. It’s more common than thought for men not to come from oral sex alone. Much like any other sexual act, oral stimulation might result in pleasure but not automatically lead to an orgasm.
Both men and women agree that they like to receive more oral sex. Oral sex contributes to healthy long term relationship for older adults. Why? Maybe because it’s the most intimate sex you could have. This is especially true for long-term relationships:
Sexual satisfaction and maintenance of passion were higher among people who had sex most frequently, received more oral sex, had more consistent orgasms, and incorporated more variety of sexual acts, mood setting, and sexual communication. We discuss implications of these findings for research and for helping people revitalize their sex lives.
Much like any other sexual sex, oral sex takes time to understand and learn. What seems disgusting at first can lead to great pleasures. I can recall the day when I first figured out what oral sex meant and the disgust I felt during this discovery.
Why should I put a guy’s dick in my mouth? I asked my friend at the young age of twelve after a guy from our class had explained oral sex to us. Later, I felt a similar disgust that didn’t derive from hygiene-related arguments but more from the fact of putting something in my mouth that didn’t belong there.
Lick him like a popsicle.
What made the difference for me? Mainly porn. I know — I am beating on the dead horse too, but it sincerely helps. Watching porn made me more comfortable with receiving and giving oral sex. It taught me enthusiasm is mandatory for the pleasure that your partner shouldn’t only feel but also see.
There are many ways to do it. Porn helps you to combine skills with visible seduction. Porn blowjobs are loud, slippery, and very enthusiastic. The girls can’t get enough of the penis they are sucking. They turn into messy monsters. Their mascara is running, they cry tears, and they use their hands. Instead of just relying on their tongue, they use their hands too. Why? Because it adds an extra amount of stimulation. A study concludes that porn offers “sexual variety”. On top of that, they often include the balls, a part most women neglect.
Massaging his balls heightens his testosterone levels and turns his medium-soft erection into a hard one. Tantric practirioners refer to testicle massages as a treatment for ED.
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Lick him like a popsicle is my proud piece of advice. Generally, I became more aware of my sexuality and my ability to give pleasure without asking for something in return. Should he return the favor? Yes, absolutely — but only if he enjoys it as much as I did it.
Here are a few more reasons or ideas on how you could derive pleasure from oral sex.
№1 Getting to know his taste
I am well aware that skin tastes similar, but there are still slight differences, especially if you give him oral sex during different times. I leave it up to you if you spit or swallow. What is a definite must for oral sex is intimate hygiene. But most guys are like us girls. They do their best to smell good, and some of them share the same insecurities we have. I heard it more than once that guys spiced their flavor up with mouthwash between their balls and anus.
№2 Building trust and exploring the sexual variety
Oral sex isn’t just sexual but also a trust-building exercise. As it turns out sexually satisfied couples both give and receive more oral sex than unsatisfied couples. Oral favors fall in the category of exploring sexual variety, too. Unlike most of us think (or I thought for a long time) knowing what to expect isn’t a turn-on. Variety keeps the fire burning:
Compared to women who orgasmed less frequently, women who orgasmed more frequently were more likely to: receive more oral sex, have longer duration of last sex, be more satisfied with their relationship, ask for what they want in bed, praise their partner for something they did in bed, call/email to tease about doing something sexual, wear sexy lingerie, try new sexual positions, anal stimulation, act out fantasies, incorporate sexy talk, and express love during sex. Women were more likely to orgasm if their last sexual encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse. We consider sociocultural and evolutionary explanations for these orgasm gaps. The results suggest a variety of behaviors couples can try to increase orgasm frequency.
№3 The gift of giving
Love is about giving. If you are mature enough, you receive more pleasure from giving than you are taking. I consider most sexual acts of giving way more powerful than the acts of receiving. Yes, it’s great to receive, but true love derives from giving and not from taking.
№4 A act of power
Ultimately, giving pleasure is an act of power. Once you give your partner pleasure, you are in charge. Yes, he sits in the driver’s seat, but you hit the pedals. You decide how fast or slow you go and on which level you engage with him. Do you take him fully in? Do you use your hands for support? All those decisions are up to you. Surprise your partner with taking the lead and being unapologetically sexy.
Giving blowjobs can be super fun, both for you and for your partner. I did write this to give you a little perspective. Not too long ago, I was one of the girls who felt sick by the idea of getting on her knees and opening her mouth just so that he could get off. But with time came wisdom. Oral sex is very much part of the sexual repertoire. It does depend a lot on the partner you are with. Great guys don’t take more than they give. So, you could favor them for that.