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Masturbating in Front of the Mirror Made Me Sexually Confident and Self Loving

Olivia Morellan 5-6 minutes 10/30/2020

Mirror, mirror, on the wall…

Olivia Morellan

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Most of us have heard sayings about the idea of,

  • You need to learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else,
  • The quality of love that you can find with somebody else is only equal to that which you already have for yourself.

— Yes, absolutely. I believe this 100%.

The problem is we’re kind of left hanging on exactly how we’re supposed to go about doing this.

Affirmations?

What can you actually do to learn to love yourself more other than just trying to read your mindset and rhyming off affirmations in the bathroom mirror every morning about how you’re a strong confident person who shines with the light from the Sun.

I do think that these things have their place.
They have worked for me to a certain degree.

Masturbation is Powerful

However, the one thing that I found to be the most profound was not something that I did in front of the bathroom mirror but in front of my bedroom mirror.

This super simple self-love practice will not only boost the quality of love that you feel for yourself but it will also boost your sexual self-esteem juicy.

— Keep reading if you want to try it.

Mirror Masturbation

I’m a holistic sex coach and counselor and today I’m going to be sharing with you a practice that not only can help to improve the quality of self-love that you feel but also increase your sexual self-confidence.

I am talking about mirror masturbation.

That’s right. Masturbating in front of the mirror is a simple yet profound practice that can drastically improve the relationship that you have with yourself.

It is a direct confrontation of:

  • Your essential self.
  • Your raw self,
  • Your most vulnerable self,

in its uncluttered beauty at its core. This practice is a basic exercise in authentic self-expression you get to be your own lover.

No pressure,
No fear,
No force,
as you like it and connecting with yourself on a soul level.

If you are looking to generate more self-love there is no more radical or literal way to love yourself than to look yourself in the eye while you make love to yourself.

Now, some of you may be like,

“What the hell ?!”

Absolutely not. That is the most disgusting, scary, awful, repulsive thing I could ever imagine doing. While others of you may be like,

“That sounds magical and sacred and thrilling.”

I am in regardless though.

Absolutely everybody can benefit from this exercise.

It’s like a natural remedy to all of the shame or self-hatred that so many of us feel around sex and body image.

The fact that so many people actually are even repulsed or would never even dare to do this. It’s actually a testament to its power where you feel shame and embarrassment is actually where you are holding back in life.

In a weird way shame actually becomes a map to uncover our strengths.

Bring on the mirror

I recommend sitting with your back supported either,

  • Up against a wall,
  • or up against your bed,
  • or your headboard.

And you have two mirrors with you.

One small directly in front of your genitals so you can get up close and personal.

Another full-length one right in front of you so you can see your whole face and body.

Sit close enough to the mirror that you can actually make clear eye contact with yourself in the most radical range of this exercise, you actually maintain eye contact with yourself the entire time,

— including if and when you orgasm.

See Yourself As You Are

It’s pretty wild as you witness tune in to a compassionate part of yourself.

A space of love and acceptance brush away all of your masks and your veils and see yourself as beautiful just as you are. Because you are also getting ready to see some facial expressions that you have never seen before.

The first time I did this exercise I could not stop laughing.

Partly out of like discomfort and shame and awkwardness and also partly just because I was greatly amused.

I made some faces that I didn’t know

I would ever make. And when I orgasms I thought it would be like this beautiful ethereal moment. But instead, I looked terrified.

Terrified like plummeting towards the earth my bungee cord just snapped. I’m about to die terrified. But again I think the fact that I look so scared was actually a testament to how powerful this exercise is.

Because when I saw myself that raw and that vulnerable it was actually really scary.

Anyways, if you do this practice regularly — which I recommend — then you will start to see a lasting emotional impression on your psyche.

It’s almost as if you start to know who you really are.
You begin to exist more naturally as you are meant to be in your perfect core.

Mirror masturbation

Give it a try, and let me know what you think in the responses section.

How it goes for you?