Sometimes the simplest acts of sexual gratitude can be the most enjoyable.
Some people are down on the handjob. They consider it consolation quasi/pity sex. It’s the sluff-off act you get when someone doesn’t want to have sex with you.
Not me. I love a good handjob. On New Year’s Eve, with friends, we were sharing stories of public sex adventures we had had when we were younger. The specific topic was ‘have you ever had sex in a movie theatre?’.
Well, I had not. But it did make me remember one of my first sexual experiences ever. At a movie theatre, in the back row, getting a handjob from a girl I was dating at the time. It was so taboo and so delicious. I had never had sex before, and she and I were only starting to fool around in that way. For the life of me, I can’t remember what would have caused us to be so daring in that movie theatre. But, wow — it blew my mind. And, I suspect that has always made handjobs a very sexy, enduring memory for me.
Now, many years later and happily married, I still love and appreciate an excellent hand job. So it’s a pretty regular part of our sexual experience.
There are times when what I most want is a hand job. My wife is a fantastic teller of sexy stories and dirty talker. When we are having penetrative sex, she is too fully engaged to bring out her best material. But when she gives me a hand job, she will sometimes weave out the best, sexiest, most elaborate stories.
It allows us to go places we wouldn’t really want to go in real life but are so hot in the heat of the moment. For example, before we played sexually with other couples, she would tell this amazing story of our neighbor coming over to join us in the hot tub. She had/has the most amazing breasts that both of us had lusted over for years. It was so naughty and taboo to fantasize about her getting naked with us.
There are other times when a handjob can be a great consolation prize when we’re just a little too tired for more involved sex. I consider it a kind act for her to ‘take care of me’ when she really doesn’t feel the energy to do anything more.
After our New Year’s conversation with friends, when we discussed covert sex acts and I told the story of my first handjob, my wife and I discussed New Year’s resolutions. On the heated heels of that story, we added a new resolution on creative places to give and receive hand jobs. So, for 2022, it’s on the list!