Here is how you’re not making a foul out of yourself.
The internet has its fair share of sex advice. Not too long ago, a viral tweet introduced me to the worst sex advice I have ever read:
Laugh now and cry later. Because this sex advice won’t serve you well. Spelling words with your hips won’t make you a hotter cowgirl. It just turns you into a foul. On top of that, spelling fucks with your mind-body connection. How are supposed to enjoy sex while you are desperate to remember the next letter?
Being on top has its fair amount of challenges, but spelling shouldn’t be one. It just adds to the awful work you’ve already done. Look good, fuck good, and remember not to go too fast or break something… Adding another task to the list doesn’t make much sense.
Coconut or any other word with a bunch of Cs, Os, and Ss might enhance your circular movements, but spelling isn’t beneficial to your overall sexual experience. Your focus slips, and you won’t know what is going on. So, don’t do it. Instead, work your body in different directions and allow your partner to guide you.
Cowgirl sex can feel like a one-woman show, especially when he leaves you alone, closing his eyes or rolling them back. Of course, you’re doing something right, but being the A student only puts you under more pressure to perform next time and the times afterward.
Just because you are on top doesn’t mean that you have to do all the work. Relax and allow him to contribute his part. You might be surprised by how comfortable thrusts from below could be. If he is thrusting from below, you are still able to control the depth and the angle. While some might consider it painful to get penetrated from below, others find great joy in the penis shooting up their body.
“The more motion you work into on-top intercourse, the more complexity you stimulate for yourself and your partner,” concluded sexologist Carol Queen Ph.D. in a Cosmo. She later added that spelling might take the mind off your insecurities.
Well, I can’t imagine that going so well? Spelling never really was my thing. I don’t bet that’s a kink of yours? Is it. No, spelling during cowgirl sex is like counting the seconds he’s eating out. Not too sexy.
Words won’t work, but the underlying message is important.
Even though I don’t believe in the power of words when it comes to pleasurable penetration sex, circular movements improve her odds of orgasm.
The stuff you see in porn is quite dangerous.
Porn draws a narrow picture when it comes to cowgirl sex. All they do is bounce their partners until they come. But bouncing is more difficult and dangerous than it looks. According to a study, one in three penile fractures is caused by cowgirl sex. Things get especially dangerous when you ride him reverse, his penis slips out, and you crush him with your pubic bone
Instead of thrusting work the circles and offer support:
Once she climbs on top, hold her tight. Put your hands around her hips and control the penetration from below. If you are lucky, she rewards you with mourning or in-synch movements. Besides the average up and down, you can move her forward and backward — so that you can control in which angle you hit her. If you combine it with shallow penetration, it won’t take you long to conquer her sweet spot.
Takeaways
- Cowgirl sex isn’t a one-man or one-woman show. It takes two partners to turn this position into a success.
- Spelling helps you remember to move your hips circularly and cause less friction while you ride.
- Circular movements make cowgirl sex safer for your partner. The less you thrust hard, the less likely you will hurt his penis.
- Using a word for reference isn’t mandatory. Remembering the single letters might leave you lost for words.
- Single letters will do the job just as fine as full words.
Cowgirl sex is fun and entertaining for both partners. While men enjoy it for the visuals, women love it for the control. Communication beats the importance of any position.
No good sex will come out of a stiff, forceful environment.
Talk with your partner and compromise on adjustments such as lighting, blankets, props, and support to have great cowgirl sex.