Now I don't want to alarm the prudes amongst us, but there is a group of housewives in the suburbs right now having orgies with each other right under our noses and we are all none-the-wiser.
Seriously.
How do I know? Well grab the popcorn because it's quite the tale!
It all began when I heard rumblings about a new female-only party coming to Australia.
It's called Skirt Club it's best described as a members-only high glamour underground community for women who like to play with women. Basically, a cocktail party for ladies who want to explore their bisexuality in a safe and judgment free environment. It's been hugely popular in London, Berlin, Vienna, Ibiza, NYC, Shanghai.
Jana Hocking met a suburban housewife who meets up with other mums for sex. The woman met the others at Skirt Club
I decided to reach out to the founder, Genevieve LeJeune and she explained that she created it to help take the pressure off women who are slightly curious to see what it's like to be with a woman. They do so without having to throw themselves right in the deep end, like going to a gay bar, or going on a date in public with another woman.
Genevieve insisted the key element to these parties is glamour - this is not a place you turn up to in jeans and a cute top. There is a strict dress code and all guests must undergo a background check before approved to be on the list. (Oh if only the dating apps did the same!)
It all sounded very exciting, and I made a mental note to check it out next time it was in Sydney but as life got busy, I never gave it another thought.
That was until a very attractive blonde slid into my Instagram DMs one night after I had asked my followers to share their saucy secrets.
What she had to say left me shocked. She wrote: 'I'm just your everyday suburban mum/wife on the outside. Some days I drop my kids at school and meet other bi mum friends at a day hotel for sex.'
Umm… excuse me… WHAT!
Skirt Club is best described as a members-only high glamour underground community for women who like to play with women [photo from one of the events]
After doing my own background check of her Instagram and concluding that this was indeed an everyday suburban mum/wife I decided to dig a little deeper and find out more. So I wrote back 'Wow love this for you! Like multiple women all get together? How did you discover you were bi?'.
And she wrote back: 'Usually a few of us together 4-5. We all know each other through Skirt Club. My husband is a bit funny about 1:1 catch ups, but doesn't mind if there are a few of us.'
Well then I just had to know more so I asked if she was free for a phone chat, and happily she agreed on the condition I kept her identity anonymous. Roger that.
Over the next hour she blew my mind with tales of Skirt Club, her newfound bisexuality and the adventures she had been on since her first visit to one of their parties.
If I wasn't so boy crazy, she would have almost made me cross completely to the other side. Seriously, I found myself getting a little turned on by it all.
She said after listening to my chat with Genevieve and having a very honest conversation with her husband, she decided to put on her big girl panties (or in this case a very sexy lingerie set) and attend the next party.
Those who had been to the parties before then started shedding clothes preferring to walk around in their lingerie. Many of the guests started departing in pairs, and in some cases, groups [photo from one of the events]
A very attractive blonde slid into my Instagram DMs one night after I had asked my followers to share their saucy secrets
After passing the background check and paying her membership fee she was given the address of a very fancy AirBnB house that had been hired for the night. She arrived with a serious case of nerves but also a curiosity that just couldn't be ignored.
She was greeted at the door by one of the hosts dressed in a very sexy outfit consisting of lace and leather, and promptly given a glass of Champagne before being introduced to some of the other nervous guests.
Once everyone had enjoyed a glass or two, the hosts then suggested they all play some fun party games. They all formed a circle and played spin the bottle before guests started openly flirting with each other.
She said those who had been to the parties before then started shedding clothes preferring to walk around in their lingerie. Many of the guests started departing in pairs, and in some cases, groups.
She said one of the hosts noticed she was standing by herself so suggested they check out the upstairs bedroom. They headed up the stairs and were greed by four ladies in a naked romp. One of them extended their hand and suggested she join them.
So there, in that moment, she had her first girl-on-girl experience with four other women. Talk about diving right in!
I asked if other women were watching and she said everything is very out in the open. The parties tend to consist of those who are there to participate in group or one-on-one sessions, and those who prefer to watch.
I asked what the guests looked like (I'm embarrassed to say I thought there would be mostly butch women) and she said they were all very feminine. Various shapes and sizes. Interestingly, she said the women were mostly aged between 25 - 45 years old, as the younger crowd are so much more free with their sexuality these days so don't need private parties to experiment.
She said since that night she has attended many more skirt club events that include topless yoga classes, mini-skirt night, and various other themes. What I found so enticing about these nights is the amount of effort that goes into them.
These aren't hastily rented apartments with one main goal: bonking. She said that all the women put in a lot of effort to dress up in sexy outfits, and there are always decadent cocktails, champagne, beautifully decorated rooms. Let's admit it, only women could keep a swingers event classy.
She also revealed that many of the women at these parties are married with most of their husbands aware they they are exploring a side to themselves they have always been curious about. It's the one need their husbands will never be able to satisfy for them - the need to see what it's like to be with a woman. Oh how modern we've all become.
I asked if other women were watching and she said everything is very out in the open. The parties tend to consist of those who are there to participate in group or one-on-one sessions, and those who prefer to watch
She also revealed that many of the women at these parties are married with most of their husbands aware they they are exploring a side to themselves they have always been curious about
I mean, the only way I've ever experienced being with a woman was after a million tequila shots and a boisterous first move by the femme fatale at a house party.
How nice it would have been to have experienced it without the beer goggles and loud music.
So how did my secret Skirt Club attendee end up with a regular booking at a day hotel with other cheeky mum's after school drop off? Well, she revealed that some of the regular party attendees were having so much fun together that they ended up swapping numbers and making a pact to get together once a month (as opposed to the skirt parties that only happen once every three months). She said it's something fun to put in the diary that keeps her life less vanilla.
You've got to admit it's all very exciting. I asked if she was worried about forming deeper feelings for any of the women she gets naked with and she said no. They're all happy with the 'Friends with benefits' situation they've got going on. She also revealed that her sex life with her husband is now better than ever. She said being given the freedom to explore her bisexuality has bonded them in a way that has really paid off in the bedroom.
To that I say bravo!
So following a year that made us realise life is short, why not make 2024 the year we explore all the interesting factors of our dating life, and give something new a go? Heck, even if just for the good stories!