The "Great Rewiring": Around 2010, as smartphones and social media became ubiquitous, rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicide among teens suddenly and sharply increased. This trend is global and not explained by economic crises or other traditional factors1245.
Two Crises: Haidt identifies two parallel problems:
Digital Under-Parenting: Kids are given too much unsupervised access to smartphones and social media, exposing them to addictive platforms and online risks13.
Real-World Over-Parenting: At the same time, parents have become overprotective in the physical world, limiting kids’ opportunities for independent play, risk-taking, and social learning135.
Mental Health Epidemic: Since 2012, there have been huge increases in reported depression and anxiety among adolescents. For example, depressive episodes among girls rose 145%, and among boys, 161%. College students have seen similar spikes in anxiety, depression, and even ADHD diagnoses234.
Gender Divide: Social media seems to hit girls harder, increasing rates of despair and self-harm, while boys are falling behind academically, withdrawing from real-world activities, and struggling with social skills14.
Loss of Resilience: Kids need real-world play and challenges to develop resilience and independence. Overprotection and digital immersion rob them of these growth experiences, leaving them less able to handle setbacks and adversity as adults1345.
Haidt highlights four main ways excessive smartphone and social media use hurt young people34:
Social Deprivation: Less face-to-face interaction, leading to loneliness and weaker social skills.
Sleep Deprivation: Phones disrupt sleep, which is critical for mental health.
Attention Fragmentation: Constant notifications and multitasking make it hard to focus.
Addiction: Apps are designed to be addictive, keeping kids hooked and seeking dopamine hits.
Historically, kids learned to handle risk and adversity through unstructured play and exploration. Over recent decades, opportunities for such play have dwindled due to safety concerns, reduced recess, and urban design that limits kids’ independence5.
As a result, kids spend more time indoors and online, which amplifies the negative effects of digital life5.
Haidt argues that reversing these trends requires collective action, not just individual parental choices14:
Delay Smartphone and Social Media Access: Raise the minimum age for social media use and smartphone ownership.
Rebuild Real-World Childhood: Create more opportunities for unstructured, risky play and social interaction.
Phone-Free Zones: Implement device-free policies in schools and other youth spaces.
Policy and Tech Reform: Push for better age verification and design changes to make platforms less addictive.
Community Coordination: Parents, schools, tech companies, and policymakers must work together to restore a healthier balance between digital and real-world experiences14.
In short:
Haidt’s book is a wake-up call about how the digital revolution and changes in parenting have created a mental health crisis among young people. He offers a roadmap for restoring resilience and well-being by rebalancing childhood, limiting digital exposure, and encouraging real-world connection and independence12345.