Why Women Don’t Want to Sleep with Their Husbands After 45? Three Women Tell the Truth
Barbara Nichols said, “Marriage is like a book, the first chapter is a poem, and the rest is prose.”
In reality, most marriages are like this. No matter how passionate the love was when young, the relationship tends to become dull and routine in middle age, just like holding hands.
Love without marriage is fragile like a bubble; marriage without love is dull like plain water.
So, in middle-aged marriages, is it a lack of love or genuine boredom towards each other?
Some say the killer of marriage is not infidelity, but time.
Even the most beautiful love fades with time. Without proper nurturing, a good marriage will also become monotonous.
Some women over 45 are unwilling to sleep with their husbands anymore. Why is that? These three women tell the truth.
Mrs. Gemma
The longevity of marriage depends on two hearts, not just bodies.
I’ve been married to my husband for over twenty years. Although we didn’t have a passionate love story, we’ve been quite happy along the way.
When we were young, we were very poor and worked hard to earn money. Now, we have money, but our health has deteriorated, and our sleep quality isn’t great. We both suffer from insomnia easily.
A few years ago, we decided to sleep in separate rooms so we wouldn’t disturb each other. This way, we have our own space, can read before bed without bothering the other, and sleep better.
Initially, it was uncomfortable, and we worried about what others might think. Over time, we found it beneficial. This way, his late nights don’t disturb me, and my early mornings don’t wake him up.
This habit continues today. Even though we sleep separately, it doesn’t affect our relationship. Our sleep quality has improved, and we feel more energetic during the day.
In middle age, we no longer need the fiery love of youth. We just want a quiet life and to take care of our health.
Mrs. Zara
The foundation of marriage is love, attachment, and respect.
My husband runs a small company and has many responsibilities. Although the company is stable now, he still works hard to maintain it. He often says that he must manage the company well to support our family and prevent any unexpected events in middle age.
I support his dedication to work. We have two children in school, and the stability of the company ensures our family’s well-being.
Sometimes he works late and sleeps in the study to not disturb me. I started preparing his bed to make him more comfortable.
As we grew older, we naturally started sleeping in separate beds.
Mrs. Wendy
A marriage without conflicts is as unimaginable as a crisis-free country.
My husband and I sleep separately because our relationship isn’t as good as before, and sometimes we feel bored.
When we were young, he had many bad habits that I disliked, but I had to tolerate them. Divorce was frowned upon in our time, and my parents didn’t want me to divorce, so I had to endure this marriage.
Now our children are in college, and it’s just the two of us at home. Even if we sleep separately, it doesn’t affect the children.
During the day, we have nothing to talk about even when together. Our relationship is just mediocre. As I approach 50, I don’t have any other thoughts about marriage. We’ll just continue like this.
Since we have little to say, sleeping separately at night and enjoying personal activities like using phones or watching TV actually improves our mood and avoids conflicts.
As we got used to this routine, our relationship improved. Having personal time and space can resolve conflicts between spouses.
Marriage is about two people, so being selfless and considerate is crucial for a lasting relationship.
Focusing only on yourself in a marriage will only push your partner away. Even if sleeping separately, considering your partner’s well-being can strengthen the bond between spouses.
Women over 45 may not have the same energy and health as before, so sleeping in separate rooms can improve the quality of sleep for both partners.
In middle-aged marriages, the fear is not sleeping separately but rather having hearts that are distant.
